JCO Problem Page

[fluffy]

If you've got a problem, no matter how big or small you can post it here and we'll try to help. From 'how do i change a plug', to boyfriend probs, to feeling low.....we'll try and help........even if there's no clear answer we'll try to be as supportive as possible......

so don't struggle with it along......a problem shared is a problem halved.

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[lammy]

Sometimes all you need is someone who listens . I know I do .

[fluffy]

it's easy to feel isolated when you've got a worry....& you can always pm replies etc if you are concerned about confidentiality.....the main thing is you're not alone, l......and yeah, homework questions are allowed.....lol...

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[sprousefan23]

Last night at the TNT and Led Zepagain concert, some guy started talking to me so I talked back to be polite, then he started rubbing on me, I probably went all over the underage section to get away from him, never did tho, he just got closer. I thought I lost him when I went to the bathroom but he just followed me. I'm just glad that went the concert was over we left and didn't see him following!
Creep!

[fluffy]

what does 'Rubbing on me' mean???.......

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[Happygal]

Alright...I've got a problem that may be hard to solve! There is this guy at school that has a major crush on me, and he won't leave me alone! He is always calling me, and he always follows me around school! Can any of you think of something that can get him to leave me alone?

If not, then I think I may be able to handle it...

[Filomena]

When you say he's always calling you, does that mean he's always asking you out? If he is, I'm assuming you said no, which means you're not interested and you need to tell him gently but firmly, that you're not interested and his behaviour can be labelled harrassment.

Sounds like the boy has an obsessive compulsive disorder, and that's not healthy. You can suggest to him nicely, that he get help RIGHT AWAY and perhaps, find other interests that he can obsess about. If he respects you, then he'll give you some space.

I'm rooting for you, Happygal. The best of luck!

[carreypunkrawker]

get back at him in the scariest way you can. All you have to do is scare the shit out of him and he should leave you alone. I know that's sick but if you can't them join them. PLay their game harder than they play it.

[fluffy]

if you've told him and he's not listening and he's starting to worry you my advice would be to have a quiet talk with a teacher who knows both of you.....then get them to have a quiet word with him......that way you don't have to get mean with him and he'll realise how serious you are.......
it'll be private too so he won't be humiliated in front of schoolmates and school will keep an eye out for any more stalking behaviour........
teachers are used to dealing with stuff like that........

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[carreypunkrawker]

sometimes telling someone and them having a talk with them doesn't work though. the person just says all the things the authorities want to hear and they don't change. they just know what to say and they go out and do it again.

I'm kind of experienced when it comes to harrassment. I get harrassed all the time. it's hard to make it stop.

[fluffy]

you could tell him you're really very flattered but the last bloke you dated was beaten to a pulp by your dad/brother/uncle......you're not allowed to date till you're finished school....

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[sprousefan23]

what does 'Rubbing on me' mean???.......

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Faaaaaar too much bodily contact for strangers, if you know what I mean.

[fluffy]

oh right...... ........you could have grabbed one of the security folk and told them the bloke was trying to touch you up, they could have either warned him off or kicked him into touch for you.......but you did the right thing by walking away..... .........

or.........next time wear stilletoes and if someone tries to grope you gently put your stilletto heel over his foot......
then gently purr into his ear that if he doesn't leave you alone you're gonna put your shoe right through those delicate little foot bones of his......he'll run whilst he still has his foot intact..... .....lol.....
but change into flat shoes the minute you leave a club........gotta feel safe on your feet...........

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[Happygal]

Oh, well what I mean by "calling all the time" is that he called almost every night. And we do is talk. He's trying to get to know me better. I keep telling him about Cory, and how much I care for him, but he doesn't think that Cory can be there for me the way he can.

Anyway...I think I've got it handled now. Thanks for all the tips!

[fluffy]

if you stop taking his calls he'll cool off............ ........he'll soon get the hint.....

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