Moral dilemma. What would YOU do?

quirky · Post by **quirky** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 4:04 am

I've met a couple of my neighbors. The other night, one asked if I could take her and her mom to bingo. (Not a long drive, but into a kind of bad area). I asked if she had a ride home and she said no.

Bingo lasts 'till 11pm. I told her I could take her, but not pick her up. She said never mind then...and she said it's hard here. People aren't as nice as they were in Chicago...etc.

So, she just knocked on my door. It's 9pm. She wants to know can I take her mom and her to bingo tomorrow.

I'm going to see a community theatre play, so I can't....but really
I'm a little scared to play chauffer here.

In part I trust that nothing bad is going to happen to me and I should reach out and help others....but I have some fear, too.

What do you think?

mav · Post by **mav** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 4:08 am

I wouldn't. It's an unusual request. Can't they take the bus?

What if you tell them you can take them to your play instead

I'm sure they wouldn't be interested.....

quirky · Post by **quirky** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 4:14 am

See...no matter how I handle this I'll probably feel bad.

I'm such a damn Pollyanna and I'm not afraid of things in general...but I've really never been in this position before.

I may just have to tell her that I am able to take them (I think her mom's handicapped)...but that she needs to find another way home because 11 is too late.

mav · Post by **mav** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 4:36 am

Oh is she handicapped? Can YOu take someone along with you? I wouldn't chauffeur alone.....

Clemmy · Post by **Clemmy** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 5:06 am

If you do not know them well, it's better to take it slowly... specially at night. Mav has a point -- get someone you trust to go with you if you decide giving them a ride anyway.

You shouldn't feel bad about the situation, though, especially if you are uncomfortable with it... moreover, you can help people in many other ways Pollyanna.

Filomena · Post by **Filomena** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 2:01 pm

If it's not too far and not too expensive, maybe you can pay for a taxi to pick her up? Maybe she can pitch in?

lammy · Post by **lammy** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 2:56 pm

Do not help unless they ask you to. And if you do help and fail atleast you tried-

fluffy · Post by **fluffy** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 5:00 pm

Taking them is fine.............you can get to know them a little better.......but agree you can't take them home afterwards.........then if you get to know them better perhaps you can join in with them next week.......that way you can have a night out and do a good turn........
but never feel bad about trusting your instincts...........

fluffy

quirky · Post by **quirky** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 9:05 pm

If you ever here me say, "I'm off to Bingo!" Please send someone to shoot me.

fluffy · Post by **fluffy** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 9:16 pm

don't they sometimes have cabaret on between games.......perhaps you could sing??

fluffy

quirky · Post by **quirky** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 9:19 pm

You mean like Showtime at the Apollo with Bingo?

I don't tihnk so.

fluffy · Post by **fluffy** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 9:24 pm

they do that here actually...............

fluffy

quirky · Post by **quirky** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 9:44 pm

So....how old is the average crowd?

fluffy · Post by **fluffy** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 9:50 pm

between 40 and 80...........mothers and daughters and grannies go........it's a family night out..........seriously...and we play for big money here...........it's national and the weekly top prizes can run into hundred's of thousands.......possibly millions..........
i confess i've never been though.................lol.....

fluffy

quirky · Post by **quirky** » Fri Mar 31, 2006 10:20 pm

I'm not 40 yet.